Rabbi Ross. I’ve been reading with fascination your articles over the past few months. My husband & I truly appreciate your down-to-earth advice, and generally agree with your opinions. Now it’s our turn to ask the question. We both come from non-religious backgrounds, and we are very close with my cousins who are completely non-religious. Recently, we’ve been running into a big problem. As our kids are getting older, we are realizing the dangers of hanging out with them. Their older girls are now teenagers, and are constantly pushing the bar regarding dress codes and Tznius. They also discuss inappropriate things, and being that we have boys that are almost Bar Mitzvah, we are getting nervous. Here’s the question. Since breaking off the relationship is not going to happen (they’re too close), where should these get togethers take place. In our home where we can control it? Or will that bring it into our house? In their house where we can leave easier? That might be worse! In either case, should we discuss our fears with their parents? With our kids? What are your thoughts? – Private
Rabbi Yitzie Ross is a Rebbe and has been working with parents and kids for many years. You can read more about him in the "about" section.