After twenty-one articles on Parenting, I have decided to respond to some of the more frequent questions I’ve received over the past four months. Additionally, I’m including a list of all the Parenting emails that have been sent out. We’ll continue the regular emails next week IY”H.
How long does it take to answer each question you receive?
It really depends on how difficult the issue raised in the question is, although an average is about 4-5 hours. Private questions that I respond to take considerably less time. Once I finish writing, I have someone review and proofread. If I think it may be controversial, I send it to either my Rav, or an appropriate professional. For example, the article about dealing with trauma was sent for advice and review to one of the top social workers at Chai Lifeline.
Why don’t my comments appear in the Comments section?
Having a Comments section always scares me. Unfortunately, some people use the shield of anonymity to post things on the internet that they would not say under ordinary circumstances. Therefore, I review every comment before it gets posted. Any comment that I feel is at all negative or condescending gets rejected. For example, this past week, one person replied, “That’s so stupid” to an earlier comment. Obviously, that’s unacceptable and it gets rejected. Additionally, commenters who want to be posted must be signed up for the emails.
How come you haven’t answered my question?
I have hundreds of unanswered questions. If you request a public answer, it’ll take some time until I get to it. If you would like a faster response, click the “Private Response” checkbox.
How come you don’t allow individuals or companies to sponsor the weekly emails?
When I began this advice forum four months ago, I made a commitment not to allow sponsors or advertisements for at least the first year. Many companies have offered to advertise, but I didn’t start this as a commercial enterprise and I don’t think I’m ready for that. I also will not sell this email list, or send more than one email per week.
Are there any emails that you won’t answer?
Yes. When an email contains information that I feel is extremely urgent or sensitive, I reply back with the names of either a Rav or appropriate professional. The goal of these emails is to assist others in Parenting, not to solve immediate and/or delicate issues. Additionally, any email that I think would be inappropriate to share, I reply privately.
What is the most common email you receive?
Believe it or not, it’s a question that I won’t ever answer publicly. “My husband is a poor role model. How can I explain to my children that he’s doing the wrong thing?” These types of questions are more about marriage than parenting. When a couple is not working together, it makes parenting much trickier, and I would often suggest counseling for the parents first.
What’s the funniest email you’ve ever received?
I received the following email from a 14-year-old girl: “Rabbi Ross. My parents think they know everything. They also are trying to live vicariously through me, and are projecting their emotions and attitudes on me. What do you suggest?” For some reason, I always get a kick out of reading that one.
I hope you all have a wonderful Shabbos.
Boys & Dolls
Kids & Trauma
She's a Slob
My son's a Bully
Electronics Part One
Electronics Part Two
My Son acts like a Baby
My Angry Son
Hitting Part One
Hitting Part Two
Purim Hints and Cheats
My Son is Lying
My Child resents Shabbos
My Son hates Homework
Rabbi Yitzie Ross is a Rebbe and has been working with parents and kids for many years. You can read more about him in the "about" section.