Rabbi Ross. My son is always telling me that he’s bored. It used to be occasionally, but it’s become the family joke. “Mommy, there’s nothing to do!” All day and all night. He finishes his homework and complains. I don’t recall saying this to my parents, and my husband and I are really getting frustrated. We’ve tried many different ideas, but they aren’t helping. What do you suggest? Aliza - Queens
11/9/2017 06:31:35 pm
Fantastic! My kids are always telling me they're bored, and I always react the same way. I yell at them that they can't play on their iPads. They sulk. I get upset at myself. It's a never ending cycle. I will read this again with my husband.
11/9/2017 08:39:53 pm
It is wrong to have pets. Better spend the money on Helping others. Otherwise, great article.
11/9/2017 08:58:32 pm
What's the matter with you? Is there something wrong with caring for animals? I have 2 dogs, and I still do Chessed!
11/9/2017 09:33:14 pm
I keep rewriting this comment. I can’t understand why people think it’s ok to make up rules for Jews. Why can’t we have animals? You don’t think it’s a good idea? One of the best wats to teach your children love, is to let them love animals. There are so many great things that animals do for kids. Get help.
11/9/2017 08:57:15 pm
I have many points about this.
11/9/2017 09:05:45 pm
The baking idea is great. I always tell my kids to help me bake, and there are times that they will practically make Shabbos for me. Love this!
11/9/2017 09:06:55 pm
Tutoring? That is insane. Kids can't tutor other children. It's ridiculous. Better off reviewing their work.
11/9/2017 09:13:19 pm
One key point that you're missing, is that the parents is giving the kid advice...maybe the parent should be doing something with the child. Parents get SO busy, and they don't have time for their children. Take a step back, and take care of your kids.
11/9/2017 09:16:19 pm
Pets! Great idea! It’s a great way to give your kids a chance to care for animals and learn responsibility. I would start with a hamster or rabbit. Dogs and cats can be hard on parents.
11/9/2017 09:29:25 pm
Just so you know, there are many parents that don't ever let their children have electronics. If my kids get bored, I tell them to go learn Torah. It's the best idea!
11/9/2017 09:45:02 pm
Yes! Yes! A thousand times YES! All of these are smart, baking, tutoring and all of it. But the pest idea is out of this world! Kids would develop so much better if they had pets. Why don’t religious Jews like animals?
Bubby and Zaidy
11/9/2017 09:50:35 pm
Bribe? did you say that people bribe their children? I would say that I'm shocked, but these days anything goes. Parents, if you feel the need to bribe your children so they shouldn't pester you, smack yourself across the face.
11/9/2017 09:56:34 pm
Wow. You’re approving comments this week. I thought you were ignoring comments until after the Bar Mitzvah. I have one point to make about this article. Play dates. I hear what you’re saying about not knowing other families, but it’s part of the growing up process. Unless there’s an obvious issue, let the kids go play. Make one rule. No electronics.
11/9/2017 10:18:34 pm
Along the lines of baking, there is also woodworking or lawn care. Anything that gets the creative juices flowing is great. I ask my kids to paint pictures that I hang around the house. They love it and it's so pretty.
11/9/2017 10:51:15 pm
As a mother with 4 bored children, I appreciate this email. It’s easier said than done though. Kids are bored very easily, and even when you have a solution for one, the next one is bored also. I will definitely try some of these ideas. Thank you for your Avodas Hakodesh!
A crazed mom
11/9/2017 11:52:19 pm
This is such a common occurrence in my house. This is the hardest part of my night.....every night. If any of these ideas work, god bless you!
11/10/2017 12:14:03 am
I’m a big fan of giving kids animals. Not ferrets or rabbits or turtles. Dogs and cats. They return love. Dogs are the best choice. Yes, you’ll probably spend too much time and money on it. You will definitely see a difference in your children. A good one.
11/10/2017 04:40:14 am
I can’t believe that you wrote this. How can you suggest people own a pet that is not kosher. Everything else was just fine until you wrote that. Yiddin should not deal with Treife animals.
11/10/2017 07:35:13 am
You should probably discuss fire safety if you’re talking about kids in the kitchen. Very nice article.
11/10/2017 11:56:08 am
Playing music is a huge plus. Kid might hate practicing, but in the long run they will feel great about themselves.
11/10/2017 12:51:17 pm
These are all valid points. It’s interesting that in Yeshiva boys don’t get bored. The reason isn’t because we keep them busy all day, since they have recess and lunch. It’s because they have people to communicate with. This is the key reason for a child’s happiness and well being. Friends.
11/11/2017 09:10:05 pm
Read this over Shabbos. I've gotta say, the pets comment really struck me. you might be right. It's a real win/win for everyone.
11/12/2017 07:23:38 am
Wonderful article. I would add, that the onus seems to being put on the mom. dads can help also! Yes, we all work long hours, but if you chose to have children, make time for them.
11/12/2017 07:35:54 am
Ho about something called, imagination. Tell your kids to use their imagination and play. We shouldn't be giving our children help all the time, how will they learn to be independent?
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